October 26 2023
There is a fine line between digging in and fighting harder for what you want, or taking the roadblocks as signs it wasn't meant to be.
You can look back through your life and probably cite a dozen examples of challenges that seemed insurmountable. You made the decision to either push harder to see it through….or you stood back, threw up your hands and walked away….saying “Fine…I get it…you win”.
It comes down to how much conviction you have that your goal is achievable, where you see yourself if you succeed, and what are you left with if you give up.
Resignation doesn't equal defeat, or failure. It is a level of acceptance. You may not like how it feels initially…..but ultimately resignation is a step forward to free yourself up and move off into a new direction. A new goal that will incorporate all the lessons learned from the resignation you just made peace with.
I’ve spent almost two years trying to move through challenges that would enable me to transition into a new chapter of life I desperately want. I can feel it…I see it. I imagine what it would be like to soak up those days in that life. It makes me smile every time.
I chose to continue to push through the days to try and get there.
Because what I am left with if I give up…..is not ok.
Sometimes we get in our own way and become myopic on how to achieve a goal. There are numerous pathways to take in order to achieve something. Often times, it is the setbacks that brings about the perfect ‘Plan B’. What feels like a setback, is simply the stars realigning themselves.
My ‘Plan A’ fell apart….I didn't have a ‘Plan B’…and I just felt defeated. I felt like the entire journey wasn't going to happen.
However, as I moved through all the emotions….(and several pints of white chocolate raspberry truffle ice cream)…a beautiful ‘Plan B’ emerged. It's much more perfect, and more fitting for the chapter I’m trying to create.
As we grow older, we become more aware of time. How we spend it, who we spend it with, what we say, and what we let slide by.
In designing my next home, I caught myself designing a home everyone else would love, and I was focusing on the things everyone else was telling me is so important to have. That was my ‘Plan A’.
There is a reason why that house will never be built….and that reason is because it wasn’t a house meant for me. It was a house everyone would love…..but it was missing something.
A few roadblocks got tossed in my path, and as I slowed down to deal with them…..it gave me time to reflect on the entire project.
It was during that time that a much better ‘Plan B’ emerged and although it doesn't make sense to most people…..its perfect for me. And now I have a renewed sense of excitement moving forward.
Setbacks and roadblocks are there for a reason. They give you time to take a pause, reflect, readjust and then continue on. They aren't there to dissuade you….they are there to present options. They are blessings. Embrace them.
Life is fleeting…..do it your way…..even if it doesn't make sense to anyone else. Because that unique difference in you….is what makes you so special.
But that’s just my opinion. :)
